Sunday, June 01, 2008

Randomny

I'm back. Seven-day cruise along the Alaska Panhandle. Pics later, maybe.

Apparently 33% of people don't send in census forms, so the gummint is thinking to add prize drawings. That right there tells you our society is on the verge of collapse. Serving on a jury and filling out your census forms are civic duties you have no business not doing. Well, unless you have a philosophical reason not to send in your family info. If you don't do it for an actual reason, I respect that. It's a free country, or could be, so go ahead and don't send it in. But if you're just lazy, then what the fuck, huh? You need a fuckin' prize drawing? Puss.

I am so sick of Obama. He has no credentials beyond the ability to get elected to the Senate and run an exciting Presidential campaign*. I am so sick of Hillary. She is bound and determined to prove either that a Democrat can be a fighter, or that the Democrats are hopelessly broken, or that she's a psycho control freak. I'll take the first one, but I don't really believe it. And now Moveon is trying to make McCain look Bush-like. Of course they are, they're desperate, especially now that they oppose free speech.

* - Obviously, given history and all, this is not a disqualification.

Gawd. I go away for a week and the world gets even stupider.

Yes, McClellan is a scumbag, especially for claiming he knew the shit was wrong even while he was spouting it. He's worse than McNamara. It's one thing to lie for the good of the party (or of the corporation, after all, I'm in marketing these days), but if people are dying for it, you need to stop cold, or face a chain whipping. But! If he can make one last sad buck writing a book about it, let him. This is America, after all.

The cruise ship was full of old married people. I so wanted to ask them how they did it. I really want to know. But I wouldn't get the whole story. "Oh, we're in love," or whatever. No. That's not how men work. They have their own ways of keeping their sanity through decades of getting older and meaner while married to someone getting older and meaner too, and the immense profitability of pornography and worldwide prostitution under various labels proves it. Given endless news stories about substantial news-worthy men getting caught dining out on the wrong gash, I have a hard time believing more than a small percentage of us nasty old boys are truly keeping it where it belongs. The vast majority don't get caught, is all, and have found ways to maintain a veneer of rare innocence. This is, of course, why prostitution remains illegal. The lawmakers have to maintain their cover just as much as everyone else. I hate the hypocrisy*. But fuck, it's probably all for the best. We can't go back to the days of well-heeled men keeping mistresses, evidently, and paying for it outright is just so soul-less, so empty, and damages lives and the whole bit. At the end of the day, this enlightened age probably owes its stability to women who let their husbands go away on long fishing trips.

* - Which is why I don't do it, which is why I'm getting even meaner as I get older.

Four seventeen a gallon! And we don't even use all that much Middle East oil. My preferred supplier (Arco, cuz they're cheap) uses none. Evidently someone fucked up predicting demand for diesel fuel and this is driving up the raw oil price? I don't buy it. Even NPR's sober explanation of this business made no sense (last I heard, which was like two weeks ago). Doesn't matter anyway. We need to shift off the oil base. There's plenty of it still out there, in our own territory (can you spell ANWR?), and we should use it not to keep the prices down but to keep the prices under control, rising steadily but not at a catastrophic rate, so that we maintain a strong enough economy to pay for development of the next big thing. After all, R&D is expensive and simply doesn't happen when too many people are starving. The time to switch is now and not when we're desperate. Of course, our government is at cross-purposes on this, as you'd expect any government to be. And the oil companies are just trying to milk their investments, like good stewards of capital should. Bastards.

Enough pointless raving. Time to go get the dogs from their puppy doctor visit.

21 comments:

Jodie Kash said...

Thought vaca was meant to relax a grumpy old angry codger? ;)

AJ said...

What's this meaner crap? We don't all get meaner as we get older. More set in our ways perhaps. Or more comfortable expressing ourselves. That could be perceived as being meaner I suppose.

And why are you claiming this desire to fuck around as a men only thing? You think we women don't want to have a chance to fuck someone(s) other than the guy that's getting older right along with us? You think we don't want a bit of excitement, of newness, of just plain something other than the same old, same old? Granted, the majority of us don't seem to be as needy as men in that regard, HOWEVER, we could use a good long fishing trip of our own once in a while. How enlightened are the men in that regard?

Marriage is the only relationship in which one is expected to like being constrained to share everything. Maybe some people like it, but we're not all cut from the same cloth.

Maybe 1,000 years from now people will get it and couples will be better at negotiating their relationships. Meanwhile, even with the dissatisfactions, it is nice to know that you have a partner to get through life with, so I guess that's why we're willing to lie to ourselves to try to make it all work so unnaturally.

Anyway, having joined in your rant, I have to say that after experiencing a marriage crisis of my own, which most folks tend to call a midlife crisis, I found a way through it, and I'm happy and my husband's happy. I don't think that my way would work for many people, though.

Don said...

Arleen, I know the wimmins burn in doubt too, and I'm glad you spoke up. Only some people are naturally monogamous, and it's a smart society that figures out how to balance that with stability or whatev. America seems particularly bad at it.

Anyway, yeah. I'd be totally cool with opening up the rules. Wife's not interested. So I'm becoming a mean old codger. That's still better than cheating 'n shit. Right?

AJ said...

That's still better than cheating 'n shit. Right?

LOL! Right? You're asking the wrong person. I think that what's right is what works. I'm not going to tell someone else what they should or shouldn't do. I can only know what I should or shouldn't do based upon the relationship that I'm in.

Paula said...

ITAW Arleen. And that's all I have to say about that.

Otherwise, I'm sick of Obama and all the rest of them. I can't believe the whole fuckin' thing isn't over yet. November?? Gah.

Welcome back, Don.

Sal said...

Welcome back, Don.

Why a cruise? Cruises are for old folks. You should've been checking out Bhutan or Croatia or Jordan while your legs could carry you. Cruise when you need to sit. ... a lot. ...

(Just kidding. Sorta. Cruise if you want.)

re How those old folks did it.
Arleen is totally right.

But. ... Why are we all so tied to the one-one relationship for life?

Most couples who last a long long time haven't been monogamous. Really. Either one half of the couple has no clue or they have settled things between them.

Most couples have dealt with the aftershocks of one or both straying.

Few connected couples have "open" marriages. Someone asking for an open marriage usually means the marriage is already on the skids and the person suggesting "open" marriage is already nibbling on the side.

Just saying. (and I'm not addressing polygamy or polyandry or whatever here.)

I wish things could be different, but they aren't.

I don't know when Heinlein's world-set will be, but it won't be anytime soon.

Alas.

Anonymous said...

The last I heard it would take 10 years to get the first drop of oil out of ANWR. I'm not certain how that would help this crisis. It would give the oil companies more to gouge us on, though, and as a good Republican I'm sure you can't find fault with THAT. :-)

I've heard other Republicans say that being elected to Senate is no qualification for Senate, but if that is the case, I have no idea how being Governor of Texas IS a qualification. I've SEEN Texas.

Many people don't see McCain's promises to continue the war, keep to current foreign policy decisions, and deny benefits to war veterans as being significantly different from Bush's policies. The ignorance of economics is different only in that McCain admits to it, which quite frankly does not help. What would you say are the SUBSTANTIAL differences, ones not likely to go away should he be elected?

One last thing- you don't seem to argue the point that McClellan is guilty of wrongdoing during his association with the Bush administration. With that assumption, do you feel that the Son of Sam should have been allowed to profit from a book about his murders? The main difference is the conviction itself (no, McClellan didn't pull any literal triggers, but he helped cause far more deaths. Manson didn't pull any triggers either, he killed with his words and his influence). Or, how about O.J. Simpson's book? He wasn't actually convicted in a criminal proceeding. How do you feel that the situation with McClellan differs, assuming his guilt?

Don said...

Yes, Sal, I admit the cruise was a bit on the slow side. But I did like the chance to go hide somewhere and read while the ocean slowly slipped by. Maybe acting like an old retired guy is why I came back cranky ...

Don said...

Good questions, Joe.

I don't see a current crisis except that prices are high. Get used to it. I only support drilling ANWR as a means of reducing our imports and preventing too fast a cost ramp. That it gives Big Oil more to gouge us on strikes me as no bigger a worry than that growing more food gives Big Ag more to gouge us on. If we really think oil companies are obscenely profitable, then we should invest in them. (Unfortunately, I'm not very smart financially and have not done so.)

Getting elected a Senator is a qualification for serving. I don't know who would say otherwise. I would like a President, however, whose Senatorial term involved some leadership, some tough decision-making, introduction of a few winners and of a few losers and so on. Especially if their pre-Senate life had some telling points of interest as well.

I'd say Bush turned out to be unqualified for the Presidency in spite of his governorship of Texas. So yeah, experience isn't everything.

I have a hard time believing McCain could be as ignorant of economics as GW. He seems the type though to admit to not being an expert.

It would be a big mistake to abandon the nascent Iraqi republic, so I go deaf when I hear about pulling troops home "now" (though frankly I don't believe the next Dem president will do that no matter what he says). Talk of establishing a presence there a la Germany or Korea has a post-WWII-style imperialist cast to it, and I waver on that point because I'm both a pragmatist and a libertarian, but I lean away from the long-term bases talk: It is vastly preferable to have stable countries there who play fair, OR to not need their damn oil at all. In either case, our troops are unneeded. Since I haven't been paying close attention, and since McCain shoots his mouth off a lot, I don't know yet how much that "100-year" talk is for real and how much is so much clever anti-McCain marketing.

Denying previously-agreed upon benefits is wrong however you slice it.

To me, the substantial difference between Bush and McCain is that McCain is his own man, whereas Bush was too weak to manage the team and wound up a mouthpiece for interests he could barely understand. (McC is also less politically "flexible" than the other guys who ran, making him the best of a probably bad lot.)

As for books, I believe if you write it, you should profit from it. The only exception is OJ, whose profits were tagged as a result of the civil suit that he lost. Yes, even a captured Hitler in some other universe would be allowed his Mein Kampf II (tho' subject of course to massive civil suits). I guess Son of Sam etc could be sued, I don't know. But these are taken case by case. As a matter of philosophy, human expression is an absolute right, and is property of the creating individual (not meaning to open a rathole into copyright law ... ).

Anonymous said...

Don-

I truly appreciate that you are willing to explain why you have the opinions you do. Some have a problem with doing that.

To reply-

1- When one commodity that has the ability to raise almost ALL prices starts inflating rapidly, I might just see a crisis looming. I can see where you're coming from, though.

2- I would prefer someone with those qualifications as well, but they dropped out of the primaries early! As someone who cannot bear to register with a party, I have to sit out the primaries because NM has them closed. So I have to make my best decision with what is left in the general election. To say that I never get my druthers is the biggest of understatements!

3- I also have doubts that any of the remaining candidates would take immediate withdraw action, but McCain seems to be the most keen on continuing the war full tilt and possibly branching it into Iran. I haven't been convinced that this is the best course, you might say. As far as McCain goes, I think he was his own man in 2000, and I wanted to vote for him in that election. I really don't see how he is anymore, though. In fact, when he outlines his stances on Iraq, on the GI bill, and on foreign policy (and most likely other things that aren't coming to mind right now) he seems to be right in line with what Bush has said and done. I simply haven't been seeing the maverick that he had the reputation for being. I'll have plenty more opportunity this summer and fall, I'm sure, so we'll see what happens. Who knows, maybe Obama will surprise you in that time frame as well.

As for the book, you're being consistent, and that was all I wanted to know!

Jodie Kash said...

So how was the food????

Teacake said...

Geez, I didn't even know you were back and here you are, telling me about how my husband couldn't possibly love me, because "men" aren't built that way. Shame, really.

Don said...

Shame, really.

Shame that I would have such a shitty attitude, I hope you mean. And I do and I admit it. If you want to take my personal cynicism and project it across everyone else, be my guest, but that would be kind of a shame.

Teacake said...

If you want to take my personal cynicism and project it across everyone else

I don't. You were. See, this:

But I wouldn't get the whole story. "Oh, we're in love," or whatever. No. That's not how men work.

No matter how common and normal your experiences may be, you can't speak for "Men." It's just a pet peeve of mine when people use their gender/ethnicity/whatever to explain, justify, validate, or excuse behavior, rather than dealing with individuals. You mention the philandering politicians, for example. I don't buy the 'It's a guy thing, it's just how they're built' line at all. For some people staying faithful is easy. For others it's hard. Every individual is has their own choices to make, and to take responsibility for.

Don said...

Yes. I know you are right. Here's the newsflash. I'm angry (frustrated, but angry sounds better), all the time. Failure to deal with it, to correct it, because frankly the options all suck, lead me to tar everyone. Seriously, I'm glad that you know your situation is different, and that your man can be counted on. I know that's not only possible but not uncommon. I just don't know how the hell people get there. Lucky in love, maybe.

Teacake said...

I was more being rhetorical than talking about myself. I try not to speak for my husband, but if he's got a dozen mistresses, his being a guy didn't cause that, nor does it excuse it, that's all I was saying. Also I hope they're, you know, clean. And have big boobs! Cause why not.

As for the lucky people, if you're doing what you feel is right despite its being hard for you, I'd say that makes you the better person. The only way to show character is in the face of a challenge.

In any case, I shouldn't have been splitting hairs on your word choice, so I apologize. I'm sorry that you're angry, and it seems like you don't see a lot of good options right now, and I hope that improves.

And how was the food?

Jodie Kash said...

Main Entry: polyamory
Part of Speech: n
Definition: participation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships

Doable.

Sal said...

"polyamory" (and I've known more than a few people so involved) is different from "open marriage" in that multiple and simultaneous relationships are understood to be a possibility, if not a reality, from the get-go.

The couples I know where one or the other was pushing for "open" marriage usually turned out that the one pushing was already involved or hoping to be involved with someone other than the other spouse. 'twasn't a question of polyamory but of "I'd like to spend some time away but still stayed married."

Different fettle of kish.

Harry said...

Crikey! You ARE getting meaner and nastier as you get older.

asha said...

But! If he can make one last sad buck writing a book about it, let him. This is America, after all.

I agree with you about McClellan but please, don't blame it on being "American". It's capitalism at it's worst.

Kristiana said...

gash? come on, really?